I’ve wanted a word to describe this situation:
A third party brings negativity or malice to words by another party, who means no harm by saying a statement.
or, as Stowe Boyd suggests “bringing a negative tone into a conversation inadvertently“
Example: I have celiacs. That means any form of gluten will make me really sick. Barley (which has gluten) is in 99.9% of beers. Someone says “I want to buy you a beer.” To me, I can take this a few ways, but most literally, this is like saying “I would like to poison you.” Most likely, they mean no harm by the gesture.
Perhaps a better example: A mountain is named something, in another language that is a swear word. Now the council that named the mountain is under attack.
See where I am going? I see it happen with race, religion, gender and the Mac vs. PC debate. Just wish there was an easy way to describe it.
Someone suggested a play on Jingoism. Or does something exist?
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